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16 Month and Tantrums

Subject:	16 Month and Tantrums
Date:	9/30/2009
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Posted By: Claire, my boy is 16 months, he is going into a terrible stage. Whenever he cannot have something or have his way, he does the typical tantrum thing, throwing himself down, sometimes hitting his head on the tiles etc. Tried ignoring it, but he does not stop. He just gets angrier. What is the best way to nip this in the butt asap. I am worried about his anger levels. We have 2 other boys, aged 9 and 4. (The 9 year old lives with his mom and only visits every 2nd weekend) We are in my opinion quite patient people and does not show anger in such a manner.

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Posted By:	10/14/2009 - 4:11:29 PM
Thanks for your "help" claire, I sorted it out myself. If you cannot maintain your website you should maybe not have it. People have expectations that you will help them and then you do not even bother to respond.

Posted By: Claire	10/14/2009 - 9:55:25 PM
I am so sorry I have not responded to your question yet, but I have been inundated with work. Please email me at claire@inspiredparenting.co.za and mark it urgent if you need a quick response. I do answer all parents' queries, and please be reminded that this is free advice. I have an article titled 'Managing two-year-olds' on my site. Here is the link http://www.inspiredparenting.co.za/NewsCast.aspx?NID=7. The best way to manage him is to hold him gently and acknowledge his feelings:"I can see you are very angry. You're cross, cross. Come hit the pillow with mom. Hit it harder, harder. Let's do an angry dance." He is frustrated because he doesn't have the words to express himself and he's frustrated because he's unable to do everything he'd like to do. Be patient with him and show him you understand how he's feeling. As his vocabulary increases and he becomes more competent at doing things the tantrums should subside. If you notice his anger persists as he grows older it may be worth visiting a child psychologist to determine the underlying cause of his anger. I would also closely observe how he is interacting with his older brothers as clues to why he's so angry. Best wishes Claire

Posted By: Janneke Luria	10/30/2009 - 1:46:46 PM
I can see where this child gets its' anger from... your online tantrum is no different than your boy's, except for the developmental stage you're supposed to be in. Tantrums belong to this age, as you probably would have known, had you looked at the site more than fleetingly. Instead of acting out towards ms. Marketos, maybe you should have tried solving the problem otherwise. I'd advise you to buy a book on raising children. Maybe someone else has a suggestion?

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